Resources

I recently read the book “Loved by Grace, toward a Graceful Purpose,” written by Lizanne Hattingh.

The book is an honest and moving account of the author’s personal experience with a narcissistic husband, stretching over many years.

Lizanne guides the reader on an emotional journey through the challenges of a toxic relationship, where manipulation, emotional and physical abuse, as well as erosion of self-worth play a major role.

What makes the book special is that it doesn’t just tell a story, but serves as a practical guide. She explains what narcissistic/abusive behavior looks like and how it can affect people’s emotional well-being. She also offers valuable advice on how to recognize such relationships, set boundaries and ultimately gain control of your life again. Her writing style is accessible and sincere, which makes it easy for readers to identify with her. It is also especially useful for people who find themselves in similar situations, as it offers insight and hope. It is not only a story of pain, but also one of hope, growth and recovery.

I served in the South African Police for 37 years and dealt mainly with abused victims. I found that this book contains substantially valuable information for people who want to understand more about narcissistic and/or abusive relationships; as well as for people who find themselves in similar situations and are trying to escape and heal from it.

It can also serve as a guide for family/friends of abused women, law enforcement agents and support groups for such victims.

I would definitely recommend the book to any women regardless of whether you are in such a relationship or not, as there are many women in society who work or live with those individuals who find themselves trapped in abusive relationships and need help to be freed from it.

Good luck on your journey in life and thank you for your contribution to informing and even saving many others in similar situations.

Lettie

I’m currently reading Lizanne’s book. It is well written, easy to understand, very informative, extremely helpful. The procedures to follow are so precise and the step by step guidance is detailed. This empowers women/men who are going through similar trauma. It gives a person hope in what seems to be a hopeless, lost situation.

Lizanne has left no stone unturned to empower, equip and motivate women/men who fall victim in these situations. There is life after this. She equips you with new skills and tools to help one navigate this journey after trauma. Highly recommend this book to anyone needing help. All your questions will be answered…your uncertainty will disappear.

Althea

This is an excellent book, as you have covered a multitude of practical topics for anyone who is in need of it. It is an immensely valuable and outstanding resource that I’m sure could be used by counselors and psychologists.

Dr Wendy Rawlinson

I loved it. Such easy reading, such emotion and practical advice. I think it’s amazing and written beautifully. Can’t wait for it to be published!

Fiona

All I can say is, you have really hit the nail on the head. I feel your pain. Well done.

Melodie

There is such a clear message of hope and restoration, well done.

Jane

Your thoughts are organised and structured. What you have experienced comes through without being negative – I couldn’t put it down!

Alison

I was utterly spellbound by what you have written.  I think you have phenomenal courage. I love that you have taken the horror and turned it into something that can not only bring good to others in similar situations, but also to gently show them God is the way and that He is there waiting.

Hazel

I was thoroughly impressed. Your book resonated with me and your work has certainly left a lasting impression. What struck me most about your book was its easy reading and your style of writing, which is engaging. I particularly enjoyed the chapters on Practical Single Parenting and Practical Communication. Please keep writing!

Caroline Harrison

Your book is fantastic!!! Well done!!

Luba Schotter

Reading your amazing book will surely be helpful for others in similar circumstances, giving them practical steps on how to safely navigate their situations and giving them hope.

Livingstone Primary School Teachers